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SAD: Dear Aunty Bukky: My boyfriend has never commented on my looks… should I be bothered?

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<em>Hello Aunty Bukky,</em></div>
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<em>My
 name is Fola, I am 25 years old and I’m in a relationship with a 
27-year-old guy I met six years ago while we were still studying at the 
same university. In all our years of dating, not once has my boyfriend 
commented on my looks. </em></div>
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<em>He has never ever
 voiced out what he thinks about my appearance; whether to say I look 
beautiful or ugly. Each time I ask him, he would talk about something 
else instead. I know this may sound like a minor issue, but it’s taking a
 toll on my self-esteem. Do I look so horrible that he just can’t say it
 out loud? He tells me he loves me, but I find it hard to believe at 
times. </em></div>
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<em>Please how do I overcome this problem? Do you think it’s something I should be bothered about or not? Thanks!</em></div>
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Hi Fola,</div>
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I
 absolutely understand you dilemma. While this is not exactly a major 
issue, it is however, disturbing. It is very unusual to be with someone 
for so long and not even have something to say about their appearance. 
That said, I don’t think this really something you should be seriously 
bothered about, especially if he loves you and expresses it too. </div>
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I
 know your self-esteem is taking a blow from this, but you have to 
realize that self-love is the best love. If you love and appreciate 
yourself the way you are, it wouldn’t matter much if your boyfriend is 
not gracious enough to verbally acknowledge it. So long as he is not 
being abusive and treats you well, then there is really no cause for 
alarm.</div>
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Also, you should raise the topic with him 
one of these days when he is in a pleasant mood and you two are having a
 nice time. Ask him why he has never talked about your appearance and 
listen intently to what he has to say.  Till then, be happy with who you
 are and stay beautiful!</div>
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 to you guys, do you have any advice for Fola? If you do, kindly write 
it in the comments box and please, let’s be kind and refrain from using 
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SAD: Dear Aunty Bukky: My boyfriend has never commented on my looks… should I be bothered?

Hello Aunty Bukky, My name is Fola, I am 25 years old and I’m in a relationship with a 27-year-old guy I met six years ago whil...

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I have been living with my girlfriend for seven years but prior to that,
 I was diagnosed as having azospermia. That was before we had a family 
introduction. <span style="color: #cc0000;">Though aware that I have not
 got a medical solution to this problem, she fell ill and was diagnosed 
to be pregnant! Now, she is frantically denying any foul play and claims
 it to be a miracle</span>. I also believe in God’s power but I can’t remember the last time I went to church. I don’t even pray fervently.<br />
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If it’s still a miracle, why is my recent test (which I went for after 
she was confirmed pregnant) showing that I still have the same problem? </div>
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What do I do? <b>- Mr A.M. from Lagos</b></div>
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Below is the response he got:</div>
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"This is puzzling and you have to unravel everything before you think of
 accepting the pregnancy or even marrying her. I also believe in 
miracles but I think this is the time to have a heart-to heart talk with
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Another option is to wait to conduct a DNA test when the child is born."</blockquote>
- Guys, trust no girl with issue of pregnancy, especially if you are very comfortable and she knows it!</div>
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I am working with a woman and her husband wants to have s*x with me. I’m
 afraid. I have told him that it’s not right and that if he tries it 
again, I would tell her. But he still does it by touching me. He has 
promised me heaven and earth if I keep my mouth shut and not allow his 
wife suspect what is going on.<br />
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I am staying in their house and the wife is very kind to me.<br />
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<b>- E.M, Lagos.</b><br />
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<b><i>Reply...</i></b><br />
Let the man know that you are ready to tell his wife if he dares touch 
you again. You should not allow any opportunity for him to touch you — 
never be with him alone. Such a man is irresponsible and could even r*pe
 you if nobody is around. If I were you, I would take some part of my 
salary to rent a room somewhere. I am sure that as long as you remain in
 his house, he will continue touching you and you would keep mum. If you
 don’t want to betray your boss, move out.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: medium;">His ex-lover threatens me</span></b><br />
I am 23 years old and two men are in love with me. I met the first guy 
while having a programme in my school and we have been on for a year 
now. The problem started when his former girlfriend, who has a son for 
him called and instructed me never to be seen with her man again. I told
 her she was his past and he loves me more than her.<br />
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But I don’t want to deny her son his father’s love because I know what 
it feels like to be without a father. I met the second man at work and 
he is crazy about me. I love these men and they are both promising me 
marriage.<br />
What do I do?<br />
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<b>- N.N, Abuja.</b><br />
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<b><i>Reply...</i></b><br />
The choice of a life partner starts first with God and then, you. Which 
of them do you think would make you happy? Who do you feel at ease with 
when you think of a home, children and your future? Have you really 
prayed about this because we cannot erase the God factor in making such a
 choice? Except you are deceiving yourself, you know which of the men to
 choose but if you are still confused, talk to your mum.<br />
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<b>Put together by Punch's KEMI ASHEFON</b></div>
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How I Slept With Two Sisters in Lagos, guy confesses

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I am 30 and my fiancée who loves me so much is 24. When I first met her,
 her elder sister s*duced me and we had s*x. Though I regretted this, I 
have made my intentions known to their family members that I want to 
marry the younger sister. But the trouble is that the older sister has 
vowed that...<br />
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She would not live to see me marry her younger sister and even told 
everyone that we had s*x together. I have tried severally to make peace 
with her but she didn’t agree.  Now, I can’t face my fiancée to tell her
 the truth that I slept with her own elder sister.<br />
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What do I do? We are so much in love with each other.</div>
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<b>* In her response to him:</b> Kemi said the guy should consider not 
marrying from that family anymore so as to avoid the big trouble that 
might come up in future if all these mess is not cleared before his 
wedding with the younger sister.</blockquote>
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Dear OGB readers: I slept with a married woman

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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">About a year and half ago, I 
gave a lift to a woman and it happened that she stayed two streets 
before mine. After a chat in the car I discovered she was 
married and has 3 kids. I also told her I was married <span class="il">with</span> a child.  We got friendly and exchanged numbers. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">One thing led to another and one day my wife traveled and she asked to visit me. Another thing led to another 
and we had s*x unpr*tected. We had S*x 3 more times on different days. 
Twice in my car, and twice in my house. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Now, one day I asked her why she was doing this... she said she doesn't <span class="il">sleep</span> <span class="il">with</span>
 her husband anymore and he had reported her to their priest but she 
doesn't care. That the husband doesn't satisfy her and she hardly looks 
forward to having s*x <span class="il">with</span> him. I felt bad and guilty and advised that we should stop seeing each other. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">She agreed and said we should remain friends. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Three weeks ago, she called 
to say she missed her pe riod and that I was responsible. I advised her 
that this would be disastrous to both our marriages and that she would 
have to ter minate the pre gnancy. Now she's refusing to do so even after I
 gave her 40k to take care of it.  She is promising to make my life a 
living hell and that she doesn't care what the world thinks. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Claiming that she loves me and that if I loved my wife I wouldn't have <span class="il">slept</span> <span class="il">with</span> her. However true this is... I love my wife and I'm not ready to crash my marriage. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I seriously have no idea of 
what to do. I practically live in fear cos she calls me every other day 
and my wife is getting suspicious. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">This lady is not a Nigerian though but married to a Nigerian. Please advise </span></span></div>
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I'm in serious pain and so confused right now. I really need
advice on this issue I'm having in my relationship. I've been dating my fiancé
since 2yrs now and he proposed to me in May. There's been ups and ‎down but we
manage each other and we are happy.</div>
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 But there's this girl
lately that I'm not finding her friendship with my fiancé comfortable anymore.
He said she is his friend's ex but their closeness lately has been giving me
concern. She flirts with him not minding my presence.</div>
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I called my fiancé and told him I’m not comfortable with the
attitude of the girl and he promised it will stop. I told him I might approach
her myself and let her know I am not comfortable with her flirting with my man.</div>
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On Sunday, after church she saw me and my fiancé but they
couldn't exchange greetings because I was there. Later that afternoon, my
fiancé was showing me stuffs on his phone and this girl’s message popped up on
his phone and to my surprise, she was sending him pictures of herself.</div>
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I was even more surprised when I discovered my fiancé has
changed her name on his phone to Pharmacist. I asked him why he did that and he
said it was because I threatened I would call her.</div>
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I left his house in anger when he refused to allow me call
her on the phone to ask her why she sent her picture to another woman’s fiancé
when she knows he has one. He Might not be having anything with her but I
expect him to show me some respect and let the girl know his babe deserves some
respect, which I have not gotten. Please I need advice on what next to do
because he has been begging.</div>

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